Does the ease of divorce make it too popular?
They say “marriage is the number one cause of divorce”. This couldn’t be more true than it is today. There was a time that a divorce was much harder to obtain. There was too much to lose in the process. Therefore, people were more careful about who they chose for life partners. If it still didn’t work out, people were more likely to stay in the marriage because they had too much to lose otherwise.
You hear words out of the mouths of the young people that they want to get married. When you encourage them to step back and look at what marriage means, they don’t want to take the time. Why? Because they will say “If it doesn’t work out, we can always get divorced.” That is an interesting way to look at such a serious commitment. Divorce is popular before we even get married.
Marriage vows aren’t meant to be broken. We know that even in the best of marriages, this happens. Those aren’t the ones we are concerned with right now. People get married for various reasons. One of the top reasons is because they are in love. Along with the marriage vows comes sharing. Something else young couples today seem incapable of doing. This may sound harsh, but look around you. Couples that get married don’t even share the same bank account.
Getting married has it’s benefits. Your spouse will be protected if something happens to you. That doesn’t come with the package when you cohabitate. Let’s not forget about health insurance and discounts on car insurance. These are just a couple of the many benefits of getting married. These shouldn’t be reasons for getting married though. It’s hard to believe, but people actually do walk down the aisle in order to save a little cash and have extra benefits.
The world has gone topsy-turvy when it comes to saying “I do”. The vows spoken during the wedding ceremony are just words spoken. The no longer seem to hold any weight in the decision to become husband and wife.
This is not to say that no one takes their vows seriously. There are many people that do. Those are the ones that will build a home that lasts a lifetime. The marriages that concern me the most are the ones with one thought in their head concerning marriage. The “We can always get a divorce” people are upsetting the balance of what the nuptials are all about.
Most divorces aren’t contested today. Most states have “No fault” divorces that allow you to get divorced just because. If you don’t like the color that she painted the bedroom, divorce her. He has hat hair? Divorce him. There is no accountability when it comes to standing by your vows.
The end of the wedding vows goes something along the lines of “till death do us part”. This couldn’t be further from the truth in our current society. 50% of first marriages in the United States will end in divorce. For second marriages, the rate goes up to 67%. Beyond that, third marriages have a divorce rate of 74%. This is an alarming number of divorces in the United States. Has divorce been made too easy in the United States? Absolutely.
The ease with which we can get a divorce has made that choice the more popular. The other choices are sticking it out. Working on our marital problems should be a top priority yet it has floated to the bottom of the sea with it’s concrete blocks securely attached.