Facebook the Home Wrecker?
The popular media has found a new scapegoat for our personal failings, and of course it has something to do with the Internet.
How can a website break up a marriage? According to the studies, unfaithful spouses often pursue extramarital relationships via Facebook with relative ease and little consequence. Reconnecting with an old flame or just fudging marital status to flirt with other users is as simple as a mouse click.
Why not blame Facebook? If the medium didn’t exist none of these failed marriages would have happened, right? Just as it’s ridiculous to blame the lamp that you dropped on your foot for your throbbing big toe, so it is with blaming Facebook for your divorce.
General statistics still show divorce rates hovering in the 50% range which means a large group of people made the wrong decision at some point with or without Facebook’s help . Blaming the catalyst (aka: Facebook) is nothing less than abdication of personal responsibility.
The media loves headlines like this and buries the details on page 3. After all infidelity is boring but add in the Internet and suddenly it’s breaking news. If you’re married and pursuing extramarital relationships on Facebook, it’s likely you’d be pursuing them without it.
It seems that many enter marriage with little more care than considering the purchase of an automobile. I’ll demonstrate with a equivalency comparison…
price = earning potential.
styling = looks
performance = use your imagination…
safety = not an axe murderer
resale = alimony
With such a short list it’s no surprise so many marriages fail. Is it really such a revelation that an unfaithful spouse is caught flirting on Facebook if your entire relationship is based on such limited information?
Divorce is a very mechanical process; full of formulae, legal claims and plenty of personal liability to go around. Intangibles like communication, shared interests and mutual respect can’t be quantified by a cold algorithm. It follows then, that blaming a website for the failure of your relationship exists in the realm of pure fallacy. Facebook is a means not a cause.
An IT professional for the past two decades I’ve been both cubicle dweller and independent consultant for a number of companies. I enjoy writing about a range of topics but know that I only post articles when I think I have something important to say. …