Starting Over After Divorce – 3 Strategies For Starting Again Positively Post Divorce – Part 2
A divorce is a huge life transition that involves many changes to major areas of life. Living arrangements change, intimacy with your ex spouse is affected, time and access to children are impacted, relationships with mutual friends and family members are affected, and finances and lifestyle choices undergo changes. It is important to fully process the divorce and reconcile your part in the demise of the marriage as well as the contribution of your partner. The overall goal to attain health and be able to move forward without repeating the same mistakes you made before in the marriage. Here are the last 3 of 6 strategies for starting again post divorce:
1. Talk to a counselor, especially if you find your feelings overwhelming or debilitating. You are undergoing a grief process and a change that produces a great deal of stress – and it is important to honor that process and get the help you need to move forward and process through what you need to process. An unbiased professional counselor can give you feedback and help you with your perspective as you grieve. As you come to a healthy emotional place and look ahead at where you will go from here, a coach can be a wonderful asset to your support team as well, helping co-create your strategies for achieving goals and dreams.
2. Eliminate negative thinking cycles in your head. While you want to face your feelings and process them, cycling endlessly around and around a cluster of negative thoughts that produce negative feelings and no resolutions doesn’t serve you well. Try imagining a huge red “X” through those images and thoughts, and say the word “Cancel” or “Stop” out loud. Slapping your hand on a table and switching to a new activity can help as well.
3. Start fantasizing about what your dream life looks like. True, your ex spouse is no longer a part of it and that can be sad, but think of it this way – you now have complete freedom to visualize your life however you wish it, without having to consider anyone else or compromise your dreams to please anyone. Begin to visualize your goals and aspirations in full sense detail, imagining how it will taste, feel, sound, look, and feel to achieve your goal. You will find that these goals are far more likely to come to fruition when you are practicing this positive thinking.
Are you interested in addressing the challenge of divorce from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, practical, and relationship components?
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Shannon Cook is a personal coach and resource guide who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and holistic personal growth, including physical, emotional and relationship health.