“I wish my husband would listen to me.” Obviously there isn’t a married woman anywhere who wants to hear herself saying that. It’s frustrating when your spouse always seems to ignore you. How often have you been talking to him only to realize that he hasn’t heard a word you said? Or perhaps he’s more the type that once you’ve explained to him how much you love it when he tells you what he’s feeling, he sits there silently staring at you. It’s challenging to be married to a man who doesn’t respond the way you wish he would. If you want to change that, it’s possible. You just have to know the best approach to get him to pay more attention to you.
There are a lot of feelings that come to the surface when you feel ignored within your marriage. Sadness, anger and a deep sense of frustration are just a few of them. Over time, you’re going to start resenting your husband for his lack of attention. Chances are good that he’s not going to wake up one day to magically change his behavior. That’s why you need to take action. First, you should look at your own approach to communication within the relationship and how you bring things up with your husband.
Most men will cower away when they’re faced with confrontation. Many women don’t realize that’s exactly how their husband views their conversations. If you’ve already got a chip on your shoulder because you feel your spouse is ignoring you, you may begin the conversation with a negative attitude. He’ll pick up on that and it will impact his next move. He may pull back and stop listening as a defense mechanism. He doesn’t want to engage in an argument so he avoids it completely by blocking you out.
That’s why it’s essential that you consider how you begin your conversations. You have to refrain from using an accusatory tone with your spouse. Instead, let him know what you feel and then ask his thoughts. Keep it calm and civil. Don’t jump out of the gate by pointing the finger of blame at him for what you’re feeling.
Also, timing is crucial when you talk with your husband. Some men get so absorbed in what they’re doing at any given moment that they just can’t divide their attention. If you’re talking to him when he’s watching television or doing household chores, he’s likely not going to give you his full attention. When that happens you naturally take that personally. Instead, pick a time when you two are just sitting together quietly. Early in the morning at breakfast or during dinner are both good times. Keep things relaxed and don’t try to tackle all your issues at once. Bring things up slowly and calmly and he’ll be much more attentive.
Specific things you do and say can compel your husband to appreciate and love you more. Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause him to feel even more distant from you. You can make your husband fall even deeper in love with you than when you two first married.
You don’t have to worry about whether your husband is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make him fall hopelessly in love with you.