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Increasing Divorce Rate

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Divorce rate in the USA is so high that more than 50% of the marriages are likely to end up in divorce. Statistics have also revealed that many other growing countries have the same high divorce rate. It appears that people have been so accustomed to the on-the-go services offered by fast-food chains or supermarkets that some of us today consider that marriages are also “disposable”.

Marrying today is taken only as a means to comply with the tradition rather than making it the solid foundation of a family.

Oftentimes, public figures like the celebrities, athletes, politicians and entertainers are the ones who are often involved in a divorce.

It is interesting to know that US policemen have the highest divorce rate compared to any other profession. This is because of the following: A risky profession, authoritative uniform, badge and guns attract the opposite gender. But soon after the policeman’s partner becomes aware of the danger and the hurricane-like life with his type of profession, it ends up with divorce.

Almost 50% of first marriages ended in divorce in the US along with many other countries like Russia, UK, New Zealand, Denmark, Australia and Canada. While two-thirds of second marriages end, three-quarters of third marriages are dissolved.

What happened to the wedding declarations that were supposed to be sacred? Does divorce become an “escape route” for couples who found problems with their marriage without trying to settle them first?

The value of marriage dropped dramatically over the years. This is based from the number of individuals who prefer not to marry their partners and just live in a civil union, but still decide to have children. What the couple does not know with this form of relationship is that the losing end here are the children.

Apart from the couples’ dilemmas in a relationship, how a person was raised by his or her parents can also be a cause for the lack of commitment to marriage. There’s a saying that “what you sow is what you reap”. If a child was not taken care by her parents very well, should we expect him or her to take care of his or her family in the future?

Religion can also influence a person towards marriage. It is not enough that you know what your religion is, and what is it about. You must also live it by heart.

On the other hand, there is a 40% less divorce rate for couples who already have children –significantly low compared with couples who have none. But how about the children from those broken marriages? As explained earlier, how a child was raised will reflect what he or she will do in the future. There’s a risk that the child can also be involved in a broken marriage. How can they be informed about the consequences of marriage if at their young age, they have also become a victim of it?

Remember that one-third of the children out there came from broken families. First divorce happens at the age of 33, which is also the average age of people with children. Due to this, kids are raised in a house with just a single parent. A stage in their life where there should be guidance provided to them by their mother and father.

Even if you will be supporting your children financially or you will be visiting them every now and then, there is always a big difference between being raised in a complete and bonded family than a broken home. Broken homes do not have the emotional security that can support a child as he or she grows up.

As our technology advances, so is our way of living. The sad part is that we become so modernized that we opt to forget the meaning of such traditions (just like the marriage vows) that are the basic foundation of a family. If an individual has lost the meaning and importance of marriage, how can we say that he or she is committed to the relationship? When you don’t know the essence of marriage, then how does it differ from a casual relationship?

If your child will be involved in casual relationships, can you claim that you’ve been a good role model? How can we say that we’re different from those animals who do not have a permanent partner?

Female chimps can have more than one partner –and have children from each of them. Since her current mate cannot distinguish which baby is his, he takes full responsibility for all the babies. A righteous trait that even a human will find hard to do.

Let us say that you are not really a religious person, this does not excuse you from giving value to your marriage. If you really value, love and care for your partner, these should be enough reasons for you to think twice and fix things up rather than seek divorce. Also, faithfulness and respect for the vows you have made in front of the church and to each other will enlighten you with a deep meaning of what marriage is all about.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment not just to your partner but also to yourself. We should never think of entering this kind of relationship if we’re only up for an immediate gratification instead of long lasting happiness.


Divorce Rates in Today's Society

Many marriages end in divorce. In facto, 50% of all marriage end shortly after they begin. There are many theories as to why the number of divorces has risen so drastically. Is it the timeless tale of miscommunication between a man and a woman? Is generation X simply a group of less tolerant people, unwilling to deal with slight imperfections in a marriage? What solutions are there to prevent these frequent divorces?

There are many theories as to why current marriages frequently end in divorce. Is it still that men and women simply do not understand each other’s needs and wants? Is there a lack of respect for each other and for marriage in general? Has social, economical, political, and interpersonal change left this generation so they don’t know how to understand the opposite sex? Has changes in marriage roles been so drastically changed, a man and woman are unable to make a matter work? Is generation X so emotionally scarred by their parent’s failed marriages that they are unable to have a successful, intimate relationship? Are people marrying out of a fear of loneliness? Is generation X unable to “make the best of” a situation? (whY divorce?)

“There is a consensus that the overall I U.S. divorce rate had a brief spurt after WWII, followed by a decline, then starting to rise in the 1960s and even more quickly in the 1970s and leveled off [in the] 1980s and [has since] declined slightly.” (Divorce Statistic Collections) The Barna Research Group interviewed 3,854 adults from 48 states and determined that 11% of the adult population is currently divorced. However, 25% of adults have been divorced. This means that second marriages are a viable option. (U.S. Divorce Rates)

The same research determined that there was a relationship between divorce rates and faith denominations. Baptists have a divorce rate of 29%, and people of the Jewish faith have a divorce rate of 30%. However, it was found that Catholics, Lutherans, and Atheists have a divorce rate of 21%. Is is possible that religions with specific, strict gender roles may force marriages that end in divorce? (U.S. Divorce Rates)

Generational gaps also seem to play a major role in divorce. Marriages of people in generation X have a divorce rate of 50%, while Baby Boomer (now age 33 to 52) have a divorce rate of 34%. People from the Builder’s generation (age 53 to 72) have a slightly higher divorce rate of 37%. Seniors, age 72 and older have a divorce rate of just 18%. It is possible that morals and gender roles have so drastically changed in the past 50 years, that marriages today simply can’t work. (U.S Divorce Rates)

It has also been determined that divorce rates are related to location. Marriages in the south and the Midwest have a 27% chance of ending in divorce. Marriages in the west of a slightly lower risk of 26% resulting in divorce. However, marriages in the northeast have a 19% chance of concluding in divorces. The change in divorce rates due to locations may be due to the fact that the common age of marriage is younger in some areas. Also, in these areas household incomes are lower, putting a financial burden on a straining relationship. (U.S Divorce Rates)

There are many proposed solutions to the problem of increased divorced rates. Should people not marry at all, but rather live together only? Should grounds for divorce be stricter with divorces rarely given? Should marriages be a contract with the option to renew after 2, 3 or 5 years? If couples were given the option to allow the marriage contract to simply expire, less effort would be put into making marriage work. Marriage would just be a convenient alternative to dating or living together. There would be more children living in single-parent homes, and the trend would continue. By making marriage a renewable contract, it would be considered a game or,a product, like a car which one can lease until they are ready for another. Marriage, a union of people in love, would be made a mockery.

A better solution to the divorce issue is to have a mandatory period an engaged couple must live together. This would allow a couple to see how they relate to each other and if a successful marriage is possible. Then, a couple should have the option to marry. If they found it impossible to live together, than perhaps, marriage is not an ideal relationship for them. However, if they found their trial period was successful, marriage may be an option.

There are many reasons why marriages are unsuccessful. Age, location, morals, communication, and faith all effect the success of a marriage. Many solutions to this divorce issue have been proposed, including an option to marriage: a renewable contract. This solution would not only result in more failed marriages. Communication needs to be improved upon, as well as the reasons a couple feels they should get married, should be closely examines before a commitment is made.

Works Cited

“Divorce Statistics Collection: Summary of findings so far,” Americans for Divorce Reforms, at http:www.divorceform.org/results.html

“U.S. divorce rates: for carious faith groups, age groups, and geogrphapical areas.” Religious Tolerance, at http://religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm

“whY? divorce,” Anonymous, at http://members.aol.com/WhyPage/divorce1.html

My name is Sara Campbell. I am a 24 year old teacher in NJ. I was recently married and currently live with my husband and our two cats.  View profile

The REAL cost of divorce

Divorce in many cases is becoming a fast route to poverty.

Not only does divorce often bring a severe heartbreak that can take a vast time to heal. Research shows that people are not healing from divorce.

> The 2nd marriage divorce rate is 53%

> 3rd marriage divorce rate is 72% and

> 4th marriage divorce rate is 84%

Each year about 1.2 million couples get divorced in the US vs 120,000 in the UK, costing taxpayers an estimated $30 billion in Federal and state expenditures (Schramm, 2006).

Each divorce costs society about $25,000 to $30,000 because of the increase in costs of supporting people with housing, food stamps, bankruptcies, problems with youth and other related expenses.

The effect on Children when parents go through a divorce is shocking and should not be dismissed.

In a study of 3,500 children whose parents have divorced. Between the children’s first and third grade, they scored lower in math and had poorer interpersonal skills than those whose parents stayed married.

At high school level, children from intact families have significantly better test scores, compared to children of divorced parents. One example in the study was that by the age of 13 there is an average difference of half a year in the reading ability between children of divorced parents and children from intact families.

Other research cited included a study that found children from divorced families were 26% more likely to drop out of secondary school compared to children brought up in intact families. Moreover, even if a divorced parent re-married this did not remove the negative impact of the initial divorce on children’s academic results.

The divorce penalty extends up to college. Fagan and Churchill reported one study that found only 33% of students from divorced families graduate from college, compared to 40% of those from intact families.

Where children have experienced several break-ups they are ten times as likely to have severe behavioural problems. The emotional damage is long lasting. In late middle age they are still more likely to have major breakdowns than those from stable homes.

This should be a motivation to LEARN from past relationships and see where you can change and never rush into a relationship. Correct healing is VITAL, so that second and/or third marriages don’t fall into a repeat pattern creating a vicious cycle of a broken generation.

Failing relationships cost, for everyone involved. Stress and Trauma is a very serious and a growing issue in work places. People unable to function at work, under so much stress that loss of concentration and lack of confidence becomes evident.

Stress affects one in five of the working population. It is now the single biggest cause of sickness in the UK.

Over 105 million days are lost to stress each year costing UK employers £1.24 billion. But If you leave healing too long, you can really become seriously traumatised and not be able to work for an even longer period of time. Lack of proper support and Lack of appreciation of how big the trauma is, consequently knocks self esteem and confidence.

So what is the REAL COST OF DIVORCE that sometimes gets swept under the rug?

And what are the REAL and CORRECT ways to handle these situations?

Being Educated in the real cost of Divorce is a great step to understanding the most effective and healthy ways to prevent these disturbing Statistics from growing.

Till next time!

Lots of hugs


Adèle Théron – Author, Change specialist, Family Mediator and Divorce Angel – has an 11 year career in helping people cope with change. She started off in the corporate world helping people adapt to new situations and experiences created by mergers, acquisitions and large software implementations. The change techniques she created have helped thousands of people in 18 global companies worldwide. When she herself experienced a divorce in 2009, she realised that no structured processes existed to help people cope with divorce and she used her change management techniques to develop a revolutionary systemized process called the naked divorce for healing from divorce within 21 steps. Adèle has worked with professional men, women and couples as a family mediator, divorce coach and divorce program trainer, helping people heal from break ups, separations and divorce. Today countless people depend on her process to help them heal from divorce. www.nakeddivorce.com