Divorce rate in the USA is so high that more than 50% of the marriages are likely to end up in divorce. Statistics have also revealed that many other growing countries have the same high divorce rate. It appears that people have been so accustomed to the on-the-go services offered by fast-food chains or supermarkets that some of us today consider that marriages are also “disposable”.
Marrying today is taken only as a means to comply with the tradition rather than making it the solid foundation of a family.
Oftentimes, public figures like the celebrities, athletes, politicians and entertainers are the ones who are often involved in a divorce.
It is interesting to know that US policemen have the highest divorce rate compared to any other profession. This is because of the following: A risky profession, authoritative uniform, badge and guns attract the opposite gender. But soon after the policeman’s partner becomes aware of the danger and the hurricane-like life with his type of profession, it ends up with divorce.
Almost 50% of first marriages ended in divorce in the US along with many other countries like Russia, UK, New Zealand, Denmark, Australia and Canada. While two-thirds of second marriages end, three-quarters of third marriages are dissolved.
What happened to the wedding declarations that were supposed to be sacred? Does divorce become an “escape route” for couples who found problems with their marriage without trying to settle them first?
The value of marriage dropped dramatically over the years. This is based from the number of individuals who prefer not to marry their partners and just live in a civil union, but still decide to have children. What the couple does not know with this form of relationship is that the losing end here are the children.
Apart from the couples’ dilemmas in a relationship, how a person was raised by his or her parents can also be a cause for the lack of commitment to marriage. There’s a saying that “what you sow is what you reap”. If a child was not taken care by her parents very well, should we expect him or her to take care of his or her family in the future?
Religion can also influence a person towards marriage. It is not enough that you know what your religion is, and what is it about. You must also live it by heart.
On the other hand, there is a 40% less divorce rate for couples who already have children –significantly low compared with couples who have none. But how about the children from those broken marriages? As explained earlier, how a child was raised will reflect what he or she will do in the future. There’s a risk that the child can also be involved in a broken marriage. How can they be informed about the consequences of marriage if at their young age, they have also become a victim of it?
Remember that one-third of the children out there came from broken families. First divorce happens at the age of 33, which is also the average age of people with children. Due to this, kids are raised in a house with just a single parent. A stage in their life where there should be guidance provided to them by their mother and father.
Even if you will be supporting your children financially or you will be visiting them every now and then, there is always a big difference between being raised in a complete and bonded family than a broken home. Broken homes do not have the emotional security that can support a child as he or she grows up.
As our technology advances, so is our way of living. The sad part is that we become so modernized that we opt to forget the meaning of such traditions (just like the marriage vows) that are the basic foundation of a family. If an individual has lost the meaning and importance of marriage, how can we say that he or she is committed to the relationship? When you don’t know the essence of marriage, then how does it differ from a casual relationship?
If your child will be involved in casual relationships, can you claim that you’ve been a good role model? How can we say that we’re different from those animals who do not have a permanent partner?
Female chimps can have more than one partner –and have children from each of them. Since her current mate cannot distinguish which baby is his, he takes full responsibility for all the babies. A righteous trait that even a human will find hard to do.
Let us say that you are not really a religious person, this does not excuse you from giving value to your marriage. If you really value, love and care for your partner, these should be enough reasons for you to think twice and fix things up rather than seek divorce. Also, faithfulness and respect for the vows you have made in front of the church and to each other will enlighten you with a deep meaning of what marriage is all about.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment not just to your partner but also to yourself. We should never think of entering this kind of relationship if we’re only up for an immediate gratification instead of long lasting happiness.