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Dating

Dating traditionally is a term to describe two people participating in activities together in order to get to know each other and determine suitability for a more intimate relationship or marriage.

Increasingly, however, it is more of a term that people use to describe a relationship (often but not always involving sexual relations) as having no emotional attachment. A person can be ‘dating’ several people at once.

In this article, we’re going to look at some of the more common terms used to describe dating.

One term that used to be pretty much synonymous with it is courtship – an older (although still practiced in some cultures) version of dating, in which there are usually chaperones, and the meeting itself is typically arranged by a third party (relatives of the couple, generally).

Third parties (although not necessarily family, it’s often through a dating service or friends) can set up ‘blind dates’ in which the two people involved do not previously know each other.

Another activity is ‘speed dating’ in which a group of people come together, and, through a fairly structured method, are systematically paired with each other for a short period of time in order to see if any of the participants make a connection.

Another term widely used is ‘online dating.’ This is where people meet typically through signing up at a third party website and answering a series of questions designed to match people that will be hopefully compatible. This is becoming more and more popular, and the screening methods are becoming more advanced as well.

Something becoming increasingly popular is ‘virtual dating’ in which people spend time on a virtual world interacting with each other via ‘avatars’ (their in-game personas) and perhaps at some point actually start dating in the real world.

There’s also a tendency in recent years towards ‘hook-up’ sites, where people can find others who are just interested in one-night stands or sexual relationships with no emotional ties or commitments.

There are a lot of other dating terms, but these are currently some of the more common ones being used. By exploring this category today you can find out a lot more about the various forms dating can take, and all the different nuances and subtopics that can be involved.

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Transforming Anger

Country music star Tim McGraw sings a song with this line: “I don’t know why you gotta’ be angry all the time.” It’s a good question for us to ponder, especially those of us who find ourselves expressing anger more than any other emotion. It’s easy, however, to become so used to the feeling of anger that it begins to feel normal. It’s not unusual for an angry person to fail to recognize that he or she is angry.

The internet and the bookstores are filled with all manner of tools under the category of anger management. There is no shortage of self-help items, some of them fairly effective and others not so much. The truth is that those of us who are truly angry and chronically angry have been this way for a very long time. It’s not that simple to “manage” that away.

Certainly, we can be strong-willed enough if we want to be to manage our behavior that is caused by our anger. But that’s just a case of behavioral modification. We can do that. We do it all the time when we walk away before slugging another person.

I’m suggesting another thing, something very different from managing our anger. I want to suggest that rather than managing our anger, perhaps we are able to transform it. Not merely changing our behavior, but literally changing the emotion that has the power to control us. Not just managing anger, transforming it. That is real inner change that lasts. That’s genuine emotional change that goes beyond having the will power to walk away from a fight or an argument. Just walking away changes nothing. Consider also, that just walking away simply stores up that episode of anger to erupt at another time.

We can only store up so mach anger in the baggage we carry around with us in life. Pretty soon, the baggage will be so heavy that we won’t be able to move it.

So what’s all this rhetoric about transforming anger? How in the world does one go about doing that? I have a few suggestions, some of them quite simple and straightforward. Not all of them will work for every person, but some of them will work and will give you the power to transform the anger that controls your life. Here they are:

  1. DO walk away from a fight or an argument, but when you do, take some time to write your feelings in a journal. Reflect on what happened and write it down. Date the entry and keep it for future reference. After you have written about several instances of your own need to have an outburst, you may begin to see a pattern that will help you better understand yourself. Writing down emotions in some sense allows you to own them and even transform them.
  2. Find one trusted friend that will listen to your feelings of anger and give you a safe, non-volatile place to vent your anger. Use that person as your sounding board and someone who is able to reflect back to you what you are feeling.
  3. Own your angry feelings to the point of trying to discover what might be underneath all that anger. When you feel anger, if there sadness underneath it? Or fear? Try to discover what’s underneath the masks you wear.
  4. Where does your anger really come from? Explore within yourself and try to determine the source of your anger. What is really hurting you? How long have you felt this anger? Again, what’s underneath it?

These simple suggestions will not transform your anger overnight, but they are self reflective enough to be much more than anger management techniques. The next time you have a need to stop your angry behavior in it’s tracks, commit yourself to also do a little inner exploration. You will find at some point that you are not merely managing angry episodes, you are transforming anger at its very core. That’s real transformation.

http://www.streetarticles.com/anger-management/transforming-anger

Can I Get Him Back?

In the wake of a breakup, you do a lot of thinking. When you’re lonely, you remember the good times the two of you had. You may decide the bad times weren’t that bad after all. You decide you want to try to restore the relationship.

One of the fundamental questions is what caused the breakup? Try not to think in terms of who’s to blame and instead try to analyze responsibility. Most breakups are the result of a series of actions spiraling downward until one party decides “enough is enough.”

Can you determine where the spiral originated? Who made the final decision to end the relationship?

It’s easier to initiate reconciliation if you’re the one who initiated the breakup, or if you’re the one who triggered the whole downward spiral. It’s a little trickier if it was your partner—he may have just been looking for an excuse to end the relationship. You may have to take more responsibility than you actually feel you should.

It’s also important to look at how situations have changed since the breakup occurred. Have either of you started seeing other people?

Besides initiating reconciliation, you need to determine what has to change to prevent the same problem from reoccurring. Focus on the changes YOU need to make. You probably aren’t in a position to make demands that he change. If you find that he is receptive to getting back together, it may be a good time to discuss unresolved issues in a non-confrontational manner. Perhaps it’s possible to negotiate a compromise. Consider changes that you need to make whether or not the future of this relationship is at stake.

Does he expect changes you’re unable or unwilling to sustain? How committed are you to rebuilding this relationship? Women who are lonely and desperate will often passively agree to do “whatever it takes” to salvage a relationship, only to find out too late that the relationship wasn’t worth the conditions to keep it going.

What if you make the necessary changes and it still isn’t enough to salvage the relationship? The end of a relationship is seldom 100% the fault of one party. While it may not be fifty-fifty, both parties had a part in the relationship’s end. And it will take both parties to rebuild the relationship and avoid a repeat of the same problems over and over.

If the relationship was impacted by substance abuse, infidelity, or domestic violence, it may not be worth saving. Or he may be unwilling to give the relationship another chance. Try not to take it personally. You might decide you want him back, but the final decision is in both your hands.

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Dealing With Breakups And How To Get Him Back

It can be extremely trying and difficult when you have to deal with a breakup. Even so, there will be a few hardy souls, undaunted by the pain, who will want to discover how to get that ‘someone’ back. You are going to need to know what options are available to you when dealing with a breakup. The foremost thought going through your mind after breaking up…how to get him back? If that is the case, and you are looking for ways of getting him back, then you should seriously think over all possible options.

Why Do You Want Him Back?

Seriously, you have just broke up with him, why do you want him back? The majority of people want their ex boyfriend back because, to them, a relationship provides stability. If this is your only reason for wanting him back, rethink the decision you are about to make. When you are having to deal with a breakup, this is an very important question you should be asking yourself. At this moment, how to get him back, may not be the most appropriate question to be asking or thinking.

Do You Want Him Back?

You need to be taking a long hard look at the relationship that just broke apart. In the first place, why did you both breakup with each other? How are you feeling, good and/or bad, about him? I mean was he a good boyfriend, who genuinely cared about you? We tend to only thing of the good stuff that happened after a breakup, because we are sad and miss the relationship. We really need to step back and look at all that was happening in the relationship, including the bad moments.

Does He Want You Back?

Are you considering how he thinks about the situation? Is taking you back, even a possibility? Boys are boys and some will not want to be bothered rebuilding the relationship, whereas, others will be open to the idea. If you want him back, try to think about thinks through his perspective. If after thinking for awhile, you feel he might be open to getting back together, go for it. If, on the other hand you think he will not think its feasible to rebuild the relationship, move on with life.

Put some serious thought into all these questions about the relationship and the breakup. Do your thinking before you attempt to get him back. Your boyfriend must be open to the idea of taking you back as well. If he is not open to getting back with you, why even bother wasting time on him?

After all this thinking and soul searching, you mat come to the conclusion you want the stability of having a steady relationship and the comfort it provides. And it may not be with the boyfriend you thought you wanted back. It is a waste of life trying to figure out how to get him back and attempting to win someone back you do not even want to be with any longer.

http://www.streetarticles.com/relationships/dealing-with-breakups-and-how-to-get-him-back

Cheap Divorce do it yourself Divorce Divorce how to get Divorced

Divorce can be a very stressful time mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially.  One way to possibly reduce some of the stress and financial burden during this trying time is by filing for divorce without a lawyer. The outcome is the same for, yet the cost is much less.

Many people think that you have to hire a lawyer or go to one of the online lawyers, who will only charge you several hundred dollars to do something that you can do on your own.

I am unsure about all of the states, but in North Carolina I got a divorce for a minimal price. I did all of the work myself and paid less than two-hundred dollars, and it was completely legitimate. When I checked the cost of having my lawyer draw up the paperwork, I found that it would have cost five-hundred dollars more than I actually paid.

If you are one of those people, like many, who are eligible for a divorce, yet cannot afford it, think again. It is possible to get it done for just under $200.

Go to your local library and look (or ask) for a book of legal forms for your state. In it you will find a form labeled, “Absolute Judgement for Divorce”, or something very similar to this. There are two different versions of the form available, one for couples with children, one for childless couples. All you will need to do is make three copies of this form. One copy for yourself, one to be served to your soon-to-be ex, and one to file with the clerk of court. You will need to fill out and have notarized all three copies before you take them to be filed in the county courthouse where you reside.

Most banks will notorize forms for existing customers free of charge. Once the forms are filled out and notorized, you can take them to the clerk of superior court so that they can be filed in your county. There will be a 30 day period in which the defendant will have to contest the divorce, after this time you can set your date to appear to finalize your divorce.

Your ex does not even have to be present to have your divorce granted. In some areas you can even allow the Clerk of Court to grant your divorce and not even have to appear before the Judge.

There are many ways to get a divorce, yet the bottom line I found when checking on the charges is that the court fee never changes, only the lawyer or preparers fee, which is something that you can do for yourself.

 

http://www.helium.com/items/1654878-cheap-divorce-do-it-yourself-divorce-divorce-how-to-get-divorced

Real Answers To Fix Your Marriage & Get Your Ex Back

Have you ever wanted to know how to really get you wife back, even after you have messed up big time? Do doubts and the feelings of being lost without a clue hit you in your time of need? Then you need to take heed of what I am about to tell you.

I will try to spread some help to you with a few tips that have worked wonders for others.

I know you are sitting there reading this and feeling helpless and dumb, not knowing what to do. You have to get out of this clueless hole you are in. Are you gonna stay there? Or do something about it. If you are serious, then you better get busy. And I here to try and give you some direction.

First thing you need to do is change your way of thinking, it got you here in the first place. You have to stop feeling that you are a MAN, and I can’t do that, I can’t beg. If she’s mad at you, then you deserve it, and you need to be something different in her eyes to make this work. You have to come to the realization that you did mess up, and following the same old path will not be productive to your cause. No excuses, agree with it, and don’t be trying to defend whatever it is that you did. No lies, no cover up to your deed, just total honesty. Losing your wife is a big deal, and everything you do now is a big deal, and everything you did then is a big deal.

Second thing you need to do is not approach her with the same old story that you won’t let it happen again. It won’t work this time. You have got to make her believe you mean it, and words are not gonna do it. Whatever it is that you may have done, you need to stop doing that now, or at least be on your way to repairing that behaviour.

Get some help if you need it, counseling, whatever. Do this before you start to talk to your wife about how you are gonna change. Let her, and mostly yourself, see and know you are doing something about it. This will help prove to yourself and to her that you are indeed serious about making changes.

I know, I know, it is hard work, and that’s because it is. You are probably feeling that you are fine the way you are, but remember, the way you are got you to this point in your marriage. Obviously the way you were was not good enough, or else we would not be having this discussion.

If you can let your manly pride and stubbornness step aside, and realize what I have told you is the truth, then you can be on the road to get your wife back. There is a lot more to tell you, but I can’t list all the tips here.

Do you really want to get your wife back? If you really want to get your wife back, and are truly serious about it, then I recommend you you check out my other tips and resources on my website. You will be glad you did.

For more information please visit my website for tips and advice Fix YOur Relationship

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What Can I Do To Stop My Divorce?

Your wife has just asked for a divorce. More than anything in the world you want to make sure that doesn’t happen. You love your wife and you know that she still loves you. You believe you just need to sit down together and work things out. You know you’ve hurt her in the past and are willing to change. But you don’t know how to even get her to listen to what you have to say. What can you do to stop your divorce? You can’t accept that your marriage is over or that it’s too late for the two of you. What should your next move be?

It isn’t enough to just stop your divorce though. You need to take action to save your marriage too. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen. More importantly you need to convince your wife that you’re willing to do that as well. If you can’t make her believe that you’re going to go the extra mile to make your marriage work then there is little you can do to stop your divorce because she’s not going to be feeling it.

Once you make the decision that you want to pull things together and stop your divorce once and for all there are things you can do that will put you on more even footing with your wife. In fact, they may even get your wife to listen to you when she may not have been willing to before. The first thing you need to do is let your wife know how much you appreciate her. Tell her all the things you see now that she does for you to make your life easier and how empty and lonely your life will be without her in it. This alone may not be enough to save your marriage but it can at least get her to think about the possibility of making it work between the two of you.

The next step you need to take is to let your wife know how much you NEED her in your life. This goes beyond your appreciation of the things she does for you and digs deep into the fact that you believe you’re a better man with her than you could ever be on your own. This will get her attention in a big way because more than anything in this world, your wife wants to feel like she’s needed. She needs to be needed by you.

It’s not a major personality overhaul. You don’t have to sacrifice who you are or even really swallow your pride to get your wife’s attention. But if you wait too long to do these things you’ll be trying to get your ex back after the fact instead of trying to stop your divorce.

http://www.streetarticles.com/divorce/what-can-i-do-to-stop-my-divorce

How to know when the time has come for a divorce

If you sit there and wonder about life without your spouse, then this could be one sign, that you are heading for a divorce. If there was nothing wrong with your relationship and you were happy, you would not consider being without your partner. When you are deeply in love and truly happy, it is all about the word ‘we’, but when things start to fuzzle out, it becomes all about the word ‘I’.

Waking up in the morning with the thought that today is just going to be another day and even when your partner leans in for a kiss, nothing shakes you from that feeling, it is not a good sign. Especially if this happens a lot. We all have bad days, but when you have the love of your life by your side, you should be able to see some hope in the day and anything that comes of it.

When you are left at home most of the time on your own, wondering when you will get to spend some special time with your spouse and after a few months, starting to get pretty annoyed because they have not listened to you, this is not the sign of a happy marriage. Maybe you are the partner who likes to go out every night and leaves your other half at home, you should be asking yourself why. Do you not want to spend alone time with your partner, or are you just happy knowing they are there for you when you need them? A marriage needs time with each other as well as time alone. You need to be thoughtful of how your other half may be feeling.

Communication gets hard at times. Have you found yourselves going around in circles? Are you speaking about the same problems time and time again, but not resolving them because no one is listening? Do you find yourself with so much to complain about that you do not know where to begin and so you just keep it all inside until you burst? Are you arguing on a weekly basis, where you are so full of anger that you are not able to speak without raised voices and one of you just walks out to return late and sleep on the sofa? All of this is a sign that you are just not communicating properly and without that, your marriage will fail. Unless one of you pretends to be happy and denys yourself as a person. 

http://www.helium.com/items/1990585-knowing-when-the-time-has-come-for-a-divorce

The Power In The Relationship Lies In The Hands Of Whoever Cares Less

Sometimes it’s best to put up a shield as you head into the battlefield of love. Other times, we find ourselves defenseless as our hearts become exploited. But what constitutes who has the “power” in a relationship? Is one always held above the other? Relationships like this are damaging, for someone will always end up hurt. Maybe you’ve been on both ends of the spectrum. I have. What is your experience? Did it work out?

If you find yourself as being too recessive in your relationships, maybe it’s time to find your voice. Search deep inside for your inner-strength and have the confidence to stand up for your beliefs and opinions. This relationship involves you, which means you are equally as important as your partner. If you truly believe you “aren’t good enough” for him – leave.. that kind of attitude isn’t doing either of you any good.

If you find yourself “dominating” all relationships you become involved in, this movie may open your eyes. Relationships are about two people working as a team in a single unit. Both individuals need to be actively involved in decision making.

Too often we become consumed in a relationship where we “become one”. Dating is not about finding your other half. Instead, dating is about discovering yourself and accepting that you are already whole. Your partners purpose is to compliment you, not complete you.

Without an equality of power in a relationship, a couple cannot function successfully. Hearts will be broken and someone will get hurt.

www.thebreakupblog.xanga.com

Magic of Making Up – Avoiding Divorce

Today, divorce seems to be a trendy cure-all. Couples beleaguered with personal and business difficulties see divorce as an easy solution that is socially acceptable. After the separation. However, the former partners frequently are lonely and depressed.

To avoid divorce by default, be alert to these six snares:

Divorce is not a panacea… It will not cure dissatisfaction with work, a mid-life crisis or a poor self-image. In fact, divorce robs you of a helpmate at your time of greatest need.

Don’t choose divorce because everyone is doing it. A million marriages a year end in divorce court, but because the trail is well worn doesn’t mean that it is necessarily the right way for you…

Avoid words that make separation inevitable. The very mention of the word “divorce” in an argument can shatter the fragile bond of marriage. Its repeated use will certainly destroy even the strongest union.

Don’t allow one mate to precipitate the split through extreme actions. One partner will sometimes behave so inconsiderately that the other is forced to ask for a separation… Then the inconsiderate partner can claim that it was the other’s idea. The best bet is for the abused partner to stand up for the marriage, calling the bluff of the other partner.

Never talk to a divorce lawyer unless both sides are serious. Even an innocent request for legal definitions by one mate can send both partners into warring camps.

Don’t be lured by the glamour of divorce. Today’s pop culture abounds with couples who have made fresh and constructive starts after shredding their previous mates. In the glitter of their personal successes s actors, entertainers, or sports heroes, the divorces of these stars seem to be a beacon of hope to others. Most of these new marriages are successful. however, only if both partners work very hard at making them so

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