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Can I Get Him Back?

In the wake of a breakup, you do a lot of thinking. When you’re lonely, you remember the good times the two of you had. You may decide the bad times weren’t that bad after all. You decide you want to try to restore the relationship.

One of the fundamental questions is what caused the breakup? Try not to think in terms of who’s to blame and instead try to analyze responsibility. Most breakups are the result of a series of actions spiraling downward until one party decides “enough is enough.”

Can you determine where the spiral originated? Who made the final decision to end the relationship?

It’s easier to initiate reconciliation if you’re the one who initiated the breakup, or if you’re the one who triggered the whole downward spiral. It’s a little trickier if it was your partner—he may have just been looking for an excuse to end the relationship. You may have to take more responsibility than you actually feel you should.

It’s also important to look at how situations have changed since the breakup occurred. Have either of you started seeing other people?

Besides initiating reconciliation, you need to determine what has to change to prevent the same problem from reoccurring. Focus on the changes YOU need to make. You probably aren’t in a position to make demands that he change. If you find that he is receptive to getting back together, it may be a good time to discuss unresolved issues in a non-confrontational manner. Perhaps it’s possible to negotiate a compromise. Consider changes that you need to make whether or not the future of this relationship is at stake.

Does he expect changes you’re unable or unwilling to sustain? How committed are you to rebuilding this relationship? Women who are lonely and desperate will often passively agree to do “whatever it takes” to salvage a relationship, only to find out too late that the relationship wasn’t worth the conditions to keep it going.

What if you make the necessary changes and it still isn’t enough to salvage the relationship? The end of a relationship is seldom 100% the fault of one party. While it may not be fifty-fifty, both parties had a part in the relationship’s end. And it will take both parties to rebuild the relationship and avoid a repeat of the same problems over and over.

If the relationship was impacted by substance abuse, infidelity, or domestic violence, it may not be worth saving. Or he may be unwilling to give the relationship another chance. Try not to take it personally. You might decide you want him back, but the final decision is in both your hands.

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Name Change After Divorce Tips

It is possible to legally change the name of a woman after a divorce. However many people do not worry much about changing their names as there are many other things to consider. But if a woman really wants to change her name it is possible.

Also it is true that changing your name to your maiden name helps a woman to return to her former self. Generally women find it difficult to adjust with the divorce at least for some time. The name change is a good step towards the acceptance and recovery from divorce. So the name change after divorce is a positive thing for many women. These are the benefits attached to the name change after divorce.

A woman can include the request for changing her name in the divorce papers. This is convenient compared to going for a change later. Name change after divorce is up to the woman. Although it is not necessary, if a woman wants it, it is easily possible. If this is not done as above you will have to file another request for it. This will be difficult and so it is better to finish everything in one step.

Once you have changed your name you will have to change your name on your driving license. It is also necessary to change the name of an employee legally. You will have to change the name in other documents like bank documents etc. The copy of the judgement will include the change of name also. This has to be collected from the office of the court’s clerk.

Do not forget to inform everybody you know about the change. One important thing regarding name change after divorce is answering to different people. Those people who know you only by the name you used before the divorce may take sometime to get familiarised with the change. You have to be well- prepared to answer those questions.

Another thing regarding name change after divorce is to convince your children. This is not a big task but you have to do it carefully. Just tell them about the change as simply as you can. If you tell them directly it will avoid many problems.

It is better to stick to your old name after divorce as this may avoid a lot of complications that can arise if you wish to adapt a new name. Nowadays it is possible to change the name of the children also but this is possible only if the court realises that it will not have negative effects on the child. Name change after divorce for a child is easier nowadays compared to old times.

Generally the judges consider several facts before deciding on a name change for children when their parents are granted divorce. These facts include the time period when the name of the father was used by the child, the relationship between mother and child etc. This is to ensure that the change of name will not affect the child.


Egypt’s rulers want to break up Brotherhood vigils

By Asma Alsharif and Maggie Fick

CAIRO (Reuters) – Egypt faced the prospect of fresh bloodshed on Thursday after the country’s army-backed rulers signalled they would move soon to disperse thousands of supporters of deposed Islamist President Mohamed Mursi.

With no sign of a negotiated end to weeks of violent confrontation, Egypt’s interim government said two Cairo vigils by Mursi supporters posed a threat to national security, citing “terrorism” and traffic disruption.

It ordered the Interior Ministry to take steps to “address these dangers and put an end to them,” but gave no time frame.

The announcement set up a showdown with the Muslim Brotherhood, which refuses to leave the streets until Egypt’s first freely elected president is reinstated. Deposed by the army on July 3, Mursi remains in military detention at a secret location.

A move against his supporters could bring a new round of bloodletting after security forces shot dead 80 Brotherhood followers at dawn on Saturday and plunged the Arab world’s most populous nation deeper into turmoil.

The crackdown, coupled with criminal probes against Mursi and other Brotherhood leaders, has fuelled global concern that the military plans to crush the Islamist movement, which spent decades in the shadows before winning power in repeated elections after a 2011 uprising toppled autocrat Hosni Mubarak.

The fate of the Egyptian Brotherhood could shape that of Islamists across the Middle East at a time of transformation after a wave of popular revolts since 2011.

Wednesday’s announcement appeared to undercut efforts by the European Union to negotiate a peaceful settlement.

The bloc’s foreign policy chief, Catherine Ashton, spent two days in Cairo this week, becoming the first outsider to see Mursi when she was flown after dark by military helicopter to his secret place of confinement.


EU envoy Bernadino Leon was in the Egyptian capital on Wednesday to press the mediation effort, and German Foreign Minister Guido Westerwelle was due to hold talks there on Thursday.

Thousands of Brotherhood supporters are camped out behind volunteers they say are armed only with sticks and shields to keep order.

The interim government says the protesters have guns. The Brotherhood accuses security forces of whipping up trouble to justify a crackdown, and vowed to resist any attempt by the security forces to disperse the camps.

“They tried to do that twice and they failed,” said spokesman Gehad El-Haddad. “They killed 200 protesters. Do they want to try that again?”

The Brotherhood’s allies called for a “million-man march” on Friday.

Haddad said EU envoy Leon had visited the main vigil, on a square outside Rabaa al-Adawiya mosque in northern Cairo, on Wednesday. “This military coup is not accepted by a large segment of society,” Haddad said. “I think he (Leon) got the message.”

Almost 300 people have been killed in weeks of violence since the army deposed Mursi, inspiring fears in the West of a wider conflagration in Egypt, which straddles the Suez Canal and whose 1979 peace treaty with Israel makes it a vital factor in Middle East stability.

The United States, which supports the Egyptian military with $1.3 billion a year in aid, urged security forces to respect the right to peaceful assembly. Two senior Republican senators plan to travel to Cairo next week.

The Brotherhood has spurned an army “road map” to elections and what the military promises will be a return to civilian rule.

Rights group Amnesty International called the cabinet decision to clear the camps “a recipe for further bloodshed” and a “seal of approval to further abuse.”

Heba Morayef, Egypt director for Human Rights Watch, said: “They’ve set something in motion.”

(The story is refiled to fix typo in Adawiya, 15 paragraph)

(Additional reporting by Shadia Nasralla, Tom Perry and Omar Fahmy; Writing by Matt Robinson; Editing by Peter Graff and Philip Barbara)