Why Should You Even Try To Win Your Wife Back After Divorce?
Can you win wife back after divorce? Yes, you can. Before you do, though, make sure you are doing it for the right reason. You should be doing it because you still love her with all of your heart, and you truly feel like you both made a big mistake. IF, on the other hand, you are one of those men that only want to get her back because you don’t want to be alone, or because you think that she shouldn’t be with anyone but you, then you should leave well enough alone.
Where do you start? As the saying goes, you should start at the start. Strange as it may sound, you should be willing to acknowledge the fact that you were responsible for at least some of the problems in your marriage. When you want to win your wife back after divorce, you will have a much better chance of success if you start out by saying that YOU did something wrong, then you would by saying SHE did something wrong.
Both of you still feel the anger and pain of the divorce. Don’t do anything that will bring up those feelings – for both of you. By telling her that you know that you caused some of the problems in your marriage that led to the divorce, you are not, in any way, saying that ALL of the problems were caused by you. BUT, at the same time, you aren’t telling her that it was all her fault.
Mistakes are made. Feelings get hurt. Those are some of the bad things that happen in life. BUT – at the same time, mistakes CAN be fixed, and hurt feelings can be made better.
This is the time to ‘forgive and forget’. If you choose not to do this, then you shouldn’t even try to win your wife back after divorce. The things that you’ve gone through in your marriage, that led to your divorce in the first place, will follow you right to your new relationship. It will be a relentless cycle – one that you simply break right now.
Can you remember what it was like when you were first married? The feeling that you both had of pure joy? The thoughts of happily spending the rest of your lives together? Neither one of you thought that your marriage would end in divorce, as so many have done. All marriages have their fair share of trouble. A lot of divorces CAN be avoided. The couple just doesn’t know what else to do – they think that their marital crisis is just too big, and can’t be fixed. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Another little known fact about divorce is that the couple CAN reconcile their differences, and can get back together again. Even after a divorce, things can be worked out, and patched up, and the two of you can be happy with each other again. It’s not going to happen immediately, of course. But it CAN happen.
Take your time. Don’t try to rush anything, and don’t try to make anything happen. It will happen. Enjoy every moment that the two of you spend together. Remember to talk about the happiness that the two of you felt when you were together, as well as the problems that you faced with each other. Talk things through. Come up with solutions for your past differences, so that they won’t happen again.